10 signs you’ve probably met another Highly Sensitive Person

I read a comment in a chat chain the other day.  The person said they could tell if someone was an HSP in less than 10 minutes.

Some DOES indicators and HSP test items can seem quickly obvious.  But, personally, I like to see the pattern of richness that emerges over time.  For example:

1.  They love deep one-to-one conversations. Not just once or twice or during a difficult time.  All the time.  And often there’s just never enough time.

2.  They appreciate what others find tedious.   HSPs are so often out of sync with those around them.  So someone welcoming, prizing – and sharing – what others judge really stands out.

3.  They consider things from all angles from the get-go. And don’t get annoyed when you do.  It’s just standard practice to look around, below, beyond.

4.  ‘Real’ matters. They have no time for insincerity or lack of authenticity.  What matters is being genuine and trustworthy.  Falseness and façade are painful.

5.  They thrive when they feel seen, heard, understood and valued. These are manna to an HSP.   Delightful to feel yourself.  And beautiful to witness in someone else.

6.  They keep going until exhaustion stops them. Or their body confines them to bed, or develops physical symptoms. They could do with being less busy and prioritising themselves as much as they do others.

7.  They say something that makes you sit up or sigh with resonance. To paraphrase author Marianne Williamson: you might forget what they said or what they did but you will never forget how their words made you feel.

8.  They’re a ‘seeker’. Of meaning, purpose, knowledge, understanding, fairness, connection, depth, aesthetic pleasure.  The list is endless.

9.  They love a quote. Something that captures a feeling, experience or impact in a nutshell.  Quotes are like a native language and an absolute pleasure to find and share.

10.  Being in their company is particularly easy. You can be yourself, with all your HSP traits and foibles.  And they can be too.  No need for either of you to apologise, hide, justify or persuade.

How do you know you’ve met a fellow HSP?  What do you notice, recognise and appreciate?  Whatever it is will tell you as much about yourself as them.  So have fun with it.  I did!